The best way to improve your situation is
to accept it. Unconditionally. Warts and all..
Counter intuitive? May be but watch those who reject what is
happening believing that rejecting the present is the best way to create
positive change. From experience, we can
see that rejecting our perceived failures gives rise to pain (and an all-expenses
paid one-way trip to the land of denial).
Trouble is, if we feel it is unacceptable to
be overweight the truth, the actual facts, hurts. A lot.
And yet many of us believe that kind of self-loathing to be motivational?
If this is you, try this experiment:
·
Think of something you haven’t been
able to do: lose weight for example
·
Now feel the anxiety of
what must be done to achieve the change
and start to turn up the volume on that anxiety: fat thighs, rippling back fat,
thick neck, stubby fingers and scream and shout for change: immediate, total
permanent change, now: you want it, need it, it's not right what you have it's wrong and must be fixed (you get the idea)!
·
Notice what reaction this is
having: are you more or less wanting
your comforts? Do you feel more or less like
eating are you feeling happy about yourself?
·
Now give yourself ten minutes
out of life: release the anxiety, the stress about failing, self -abuse,
non-acceptance and try for this ten minutes saying this is where I am, this is
OK for these ten minutes I am being with who I am. If judgments keep presenting themselves tell
them to back off, we’re taking ten minutes here. You can have them all back after the ten
minutes but for now we are taking ten.
·
Feeling angry? Feeling scared? Feeling mean?
Accept where you are. Identify
what you are feeling and say hello, give yourself permission to feel what you are
feeling and let it go. “It’s okay to be
cross” “It’s okay to be sad” “It’s okay
to cry”
·
Notice now by accepting where
you are (your outward truth, what’s real) and your inward truth (what you are
feeling about it) how you are feeling about wanting that sweet treat wanting to
go with the chocolate and biscuit answer. And suddenly it's not so bad.
Accepting where we are frees up a lot of
energy in a way that rejecting the truth and crawling back into denial does not. And from that calm place we can take stock
and chose something different.
And we would start by actively choosing for paleo
food. Making this choice helps us
withdraw from sugar and processed food which provides clarity and from that clearest point we can start to make a difference.
There are lots of recipes to follow on this site and on our facebook page where we post pictures of the food we have cooked and eaten with our kids. Let you into a secret: it's the best fun.
There are lots of recipes to follow on this site and on our facebook page where we post pictures of the food we have cooked and eaten with our kids. Let you into a secret: it's the best fun.
Until next time..
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