Friday, June 8
Sustained Change can be Hard
It's doubly hard if you have made a break from the life you were living and have been successfully living something new. Like weight loss. Like Paleo. You may well find that your success meets with resistance.
"Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands resistance." Steven Pressfield
When you succeed, your success can become an uncomfortable reminder of that "unlived life" to others.
Yet what a powerful gift you offer! However, don't dwell on this, don't try to own it or prove it, it's simpler than that. Let go and simply remember to keep walking, one foot in front of the other. This is a process of continual renewal. No quick fix here.
"Often couples or close friends, even entire families will enter into tacit compacts whereby each individual pledges (unconsciously) to remain mired in the same slough in which she and all her cronies have become so comfortable. The highest treason a crab can commit is to make a leap for the rim of the bucket.....be ruthless, not only with yourself but with others. Once you make your break you can't turn round for your buddy who catches his trouser leg on the barbed wire. The best thing you can do for that friend (and he'd tell you this himself, if he really is your friend) is to get over the wall and keep motating."
Steven Pressfield: The War of Art.
And why is this relevant to this paleo life? Sometimes we meet resistance in the most unexpected places. Sometimes we go into battle with resistance on our own. Sometimes we battle powerful allies: friends, partners, mothers, lovers and the closer these allies are to us, the more powerful the emotion at play. In the end however, there is only one answer and it falls to you to decide: either do it or don't.
Good luck and go on...give it your best shot!